About 7 years ago I hurt my back. In retrospect, it wasn't really that bad. I went to a chiropractor, and over the course of 6 months he adjusted me and taught me how to take care of it myself. (I was not going to be one of those people who is addicted to his chiropractor, by god!)
I soon began a morning stretching and light workout regimen that I continue to follow 7 days a week to this day. I spend 45 minutes to an hour doing this every day. It is to the point that I miss it if I don't do it. (I also floss religiously, but that's another story.)
During that same time my wife and I joined Weight Watchers. Well, she joined WW and I participated vicariously through her. In the program I dropped about 20 pounds, most of which is still off.
Of all this I am proud. This pride gets me out of bed an hour earlier than I need to be each morning. And it is with this pride - this hubris, if you will - that I must now introduce the Fat Lady.
Being a creature of habit, I drive nearly the same route to work each day, on a county road through a couple of suburbs before entering the highway and becoming one of the faceless thousands idling life away, alone in our cars heading to work, on our state and federal highway system.
Ah, the priceless solitude of the commute!
Most days I half listen to talk radio while trying to remember which meetings I haven't prepared for. Some days I opt for music on one of the many, many Clear Channel stations - homogeneous pop/rock for the mindless and intelligence challenged.
But some days - rare ones - I provide a color commentary to my drive. On these days I'm in an inadvertant good mood, giddy with the realization that I've survived another day, another night, another layoff at work, another whatever. It was on one of these rare days that I encountered the Fat Lady.
It was about 8:15am on a crisp sunny morning. I don't remember the date or even the season, but I remember seeing first the silhouette then the detail of a clearly overweight woman, perhaps in her mid-50's, walking vigorously along the sidewalk. She was wearing generic gray sweatpants and matching sweatshirt. Neither fit well. In fact, they appeared to have been purchased in another fashion era, probably before she'd gained all the weight that was now straining most of the elastic in this outfit.
My running commentary noted all of these facts.
"You go, girl!" I said clearly to myself and the Fat Lady as I passed her. I don't think she knew I was talking to her - seeing as my windows were rolled up and she was on the opposite side of the street. But her puffy red face nodded an expression to me that said, "I need to be doing this. I don't care what you think."
Quick digression: What is the best kind of exercise? The kind that you'll do.
The Fat Lady disappeared from my thoughts until the next morning's commute. At about the same time and place we encountered each other again. She was, if anything, walking even more vigorously than the day before, arms flailing at her sides in an odd, uncoordinated, not-syncopated-with-her-gait way. Her face was red and beads of sweat were visible on her temple.
So surprised, was I, that I broke from my talk radio induced coma to comment, "Good for you, Fat Lady!"
The Fat Lady and I continued our weekday encounters for months. Each day I commented, "Good for you, Fat Lady!" even though, after some time, the "Fat Lady" part didn't apply as much. In fact, I came to enjoy her success at sticking with her regimen as much as I enjoyed sticking with mine. I felt pride for her.
I have since changed my route to work and don't see the Fat Lady anymore. This, however, is not the end of my story.
Last Friday I decided that, what with gas being 3 dollars a gallon and all, and that I live so close to a bikepath that runs practically straight to my office, and that the office has a locker room with a shower, that all of these reasons make it clear that I need to ride my bike to work. All 10 or so miles of it. Good for the planet. Good for my health.
I have a decent mountain bike - it's not great, but it works for me. I ride with the kids frequently in the summer. And with my morning stretch and workout regimen, I feel that I'm in pretty darn good shape, by golly! Further, I've made the ride before, just to see if I could, and I reached the office in a bit under an hour. On a sultry 90 degree day, no less. This, by comparison, would be a cakewalk. Perhaps I'll go shopping for my fulti-colored, skintight Discovery Channel nylon biking shirt.
As I rode last Friday I was trying to think: this is good for my health; and this is good for the planet. What I really concluded was: this damn path is so flat that I never get to coast; and this backpack is heavier than I thought. And I wish all these Lance Armstrong wannabes would stop whizzing by me.
I made it to work in 50 minutes. I showered and was at my desk a good half hour earlier than usual. My legs were a bit tired, but not any worse than when I used to play basketball. All in all a positive experience.
At the end of the day I braced for the ride home. My legs hadn't quite recovered, and it appeared to be much warmer outside than in the morning (of course). So out I went.
I was doing fine until the old lady passed me. She wasn't really that old, I suppose, maybe 60, tops. But she blew by me with relative ease, and kind of gave me a look from the corner of her eye - a look that said, "You go, Fat Guy!"
Bitch! I busted my ass to catch her. But I didn't. I still had several miles to go and decided that it was more important to pace myself and make it home than to suffer the indignity of calling my wife for a ride. So I'm telling you now (and told myself then) - I could have passed her if I'd wanted. Really.
I'm riding again tomorrow (weather permitting). And I vow that old lady will not pass me again. I am not the Fat Lady.
Thursday, August 17, 2006
Tuesday, August 01, 2006
Garbage Everywhere
As you read in a previous post, I recently had some problems with water in my basement. Consequently, I had to toss out a bunch of stuff that was destroyed by the water - a bunch of boxes, board games, and an old area rug (5' x 8'). None of these items was cherished, but it did get me to thinking.
In the city where I live, residents are responsible for contracting for their own garbage removal. We have 3 services from which to choose, and not surprisingly, they compete vigorously for our business. Last year we switched services and, in the process, added a second garbage can for an extra $7/month. I don't know exactly how large the cans are, but suffice it to say that they are the largest ones we could get. Collectively they are somewhat smaller than a small dumpster, but not by much.
"Phil," you say, "why do you need so much trash capacity?"
When we did the deal, we still had the greenhouse. (My property, at time of purchase, contained a house, a shed, and a greenhouse.) The greenhouse was rickety, contained broken glass, and was a haven for hornets and wasps nests (and I think the little bastards had a meth lab in there!). I had debated with my wife about how to dispose of the greenhouse - she preferred getting a dumpster while I preferred a cheaper option, any cheaper option. The dumpster would cost in excess of $400. Once I found out about the second garbage can option (cost $84/year), I had my cheaper option. So I systematically dismembered the greenhouse and over the course of several weeks last summer disposed of it through the trash.
I am just now beginning to feel the guilt over this move. Read this article about landfills. I found it very eye-opening. The bottom line is this: Landfills are never usable land once they've been landfills.
Think about this - how close would you want to live to one of these? And this - what if you had to properly dispose of all of your own garbage on your own property? It would certainly make you think twice about all the stuff you buy. Do you really want Happy Meals for the kids? Will the toys ever decompose?
I'm sure any public health official will tell you that public landfills, compared with citizen-based garbage disposal, have been a huge advancement in waste disposal. However, if you project humanity out another 10,000 years, all humans will be living on landfill. We'll probably also have our 3rd cancerous arms removed at birth.
Here's my challenge: I will start making purchasing decisions based on recyclablility and minimal packaging and reduce my "garbage footprint". Will you?
In the city where I live, residents are responsible for contracting for their own garbage removal. We have 3 services from which to choose, and not surprisingly, they compete vigorously for our business. Last year we switched services and, in the process, added a second garbage can for an extra $7/month. I don't know exactly how large the cans are, but suffice it to say that they are the largest ones we could get. Collectively they are somewhat smaller than a small dumpster, but not by much.
"Phil," you say, "why do you need so much trash capacity?"
When we did the deal, we still had the greenhouse. (My property, at time of purchase, contained a house, a shed, and a greenhouse.) The greenhouse was rickety, contained broken glass, and was a haven for hornets and wasps nests (and I think the little bastards had a meth lab in there!). I had debated with my wife about how to dispose of the greenhouse - she preferred getting a dumpster while I preferred a cheaper option, any cheaper option. The dumpster would cost in excess of $400. Once I found out about the second garbage can option (cost $84/year), I had my cheaper option. So I systematically dismembered the greenhouse and over the course of several weeks last summer disposed of it through the trash.
I am just now beginning to feel the guilt over this move. Read this article about landfills. I found it very eye-opening. The bottom line is this: Landfills are never usable land once they've been landfills.
Think about this - how close would you want to live to one of these? And this - what if you had to properly dispose of all of your own garbage on your own property? It would certainly make you think twice about all the stuff you buy. Do you really want Happy Meals for the kids? Will the toys ever decompose?
I'm sure any public health official will tell you that public landfills, compared with citizen-based garbage disposal, have been a huge advancement in waste disposal. However, if you project humanity out another 10,000 years, all humans will be living on landfill. We'll probably also have our 3rd cancerous arms removed at birth.
Here's my challenge: I will start making purchasing decisions based on recyclablility and minimal packaging and reduce my "garbage footprint". Will you?
Monday, July 17, 2006
Stealing from Myspace
I have a myspace account. I don't use it - I use this blog instead. But I do liberally "borrow" material from Myspace, if only because I think some of it is fun. Below please find 50 (or so) questions and my answers.
1. Have you had sex in the last week?
Yep.
2. Have you kissed someone in the last week?
Yep.
3. If yes, did you like it?
Yep.
5. What is the last thing that you drank?
Diet A&W
6. Who is the last person you think about at night?
??? Depends on the night.
7. Elvis or James Dean?
Neither.
8. Who is one person you can't stand from high school?
Myself.
9. What grade did you make in college algebra?
An "A" - when I took it in high school.
10. If you could have sex w/ one person right now who would it be and why?
My wife. Because we fit.
11. Are you still in love w/ any of your ex's?
Can't even remember ex's.
12. Do you like someone right now?
Yep. My wife - if that's what you're getting at.
13. Who is your freebie?
And a freebie would be?
14. Do you think lesbians are hot?
Dumb question. People are hot or not hot based on their looks and personality, not their sexuality.
16. What is your fav alcoholic drink?
Fuzzy Navel.
17. Fav non alcoholic?
Mountain Dew.
18. If you could have one wish what would it be?
That all the bombs and guns would just stop working. And for people to learn to disagree and walk away.
20. Do you know what tofu is?
A soylent-based product. I mean soy-based product.
21. Have you ever eaten it?
Not on purpose.
22. Do you know what a colonoscopy is?
Unfortunately.
23. Have you ever had one?
Yep.
24. Do you know who plays at least a small part in every Adam Sandler movie?
Other than Adam Sandler, no.
25. Do you want to go back to high school?
Never. Not even briefly, to right wrongs. Nope.
26. Who is your arch enemy?
Lex Luthor. Motherf*cker!
27. If you could go back to one time in your life and change something, would you?
Maybe. Depends on the rules. If madcap hilarity ensues, then yes.
28. This is for guys and girls - Do you or have you ever read Cosmo?
It's a viable and inexpensive source of softcore porn for teenage boys with teenage sisters, with built-in plausible deniability. But no, I haven't and don't.
29. Have you ever watched the Britney Spears movie?
Britney Spears made a movie?
30. Do you listen to Lindsay Lohan?
Only when she's saying lines in a movie.
31. Your favorite color?
Blue.
32. Paul Walker or Ryan Phillippe?
And these guys are famous people?
33. Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera?
Musically - neither. Sexually - I'll pass on both.
34. Smurfs or Carebears?
As targets in a firing range, either will do. Quick dirty joke: What's blue and Sticky? Smurf cum.
35. Favorite ex?
Nope.
36. Do you want platinum or gold for your wedding band?
Gold.
37. Have you ever paid to have your eyebrows waxed?
Sounds harrowing. No.
38. Do you shave your back?
Sounds harrowing. No.
39. Have you ever watched porn and thought it was funny?
Yes. But not on purpose.
40. Have you ever flashed someone?
Just what would I be flashing? Genitalia? Cash?
41. Who is your best friend?
My wife.
42. How many children do you want to have?
3
43. Are you pro-choice or pro-life?
Pro-choice.
44. Republican or Democrat?
Neither, but I vote against the Republicans.
45. What religion (if any) are you?
None.
47.Do you think that the tobacco companies should pay for people's medical bills?
No, but we should tax the living sh*t out of them to pay for smokers who can't afford insurance.
48. What scares you
Darth Cheney. My kids in the military. Ignorant leadership. Fundamentalist Christianity. Fundamentaism [any religion].
49. What makes you happy?
Laughter. Piles of money. Spare time.
50. If you could have one person in your bed tonight who would it be?
My wife. (Am I boring yet?) And she's not even looking over my shoulder.
1. Have you had sex in the last week?
Yep.
2. Have you kissed someone in the last week?
Yep.
3. If yes, did you like it?
Yep.
5. What is the last thing that you drank?
Diet A&W
6. Who is the last person you think about at night?
??? Depends on the night.
7. Elvis or James Dean?
Neither.
8. Who is one person you can't stand from high school?
Myself.
9. What grade did you make in college algebra?
An "A" - when I took it in high school.
10. If you could have sex w/ one person right now who would it be and why?
My wife. Because we fit.
11. Are you still in love w/ any of your ex's?
Can't even remember ex's.
12. Do you like someone right now?
Yep. My wife - if that's what you're getting at.
13. Who is your freebie?
And a freebie would be?
14. Do you think lesbians are hot?
Dumb question. People are hot or not hot based on their looks and personality, not their sexuality.
16. What is your fav alcoholic drink?
Fuzzy Navel.
17. Fav non alcoholic?
Mountain Dew.
18. If you could have one wish what would it be?
That all the bombs and guns would just stop working. And for people to learn to disagree and walk away.
20. Do you know what tofu is?
A soylent-based product. I mean soy-based product.
21. Have you ever eaten it?
Not on purpose.
22. Do you know what a colonoscopy is?
Unfortunately.
23. Have you ever had one?
Yep.
24. Do you know who plays at least a small part in every Adam Sandler movie?
Other than Adam Sandler, no.
25. Do you want to go back to high school?
Never. Not even briefly, to right wrongs. Nope.
26. Who is your arch enemy?
Lex Luthor. Motherf*cker!
27. If you could go back to one time in your life and change something, would you?
Maybe. Depends on the rules. If madcap hilarity ensues, then yes.
28. This is for guys and girls - Do you or have you ever read Cosmo?
It's a viable and inexpensive source of softcore porn for teenage boys with teenage sisters, with built-in plausible deniability. But no, I haven't and don't.
29. Have you ever watched the Britney Spears movie?
Britney Spears made a movie?
30. Do you listen to Lindsay Lohan?
Only when she's saying lines in a movie.
31. Your favorite color?
Blue.
32. Paul Walker or Ryan Phillippe?
And these guys are famous people?
33. Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera?
Musically - neither. Sexually - I'll pass on both.
34. Smurfs or Carebears?
As targets in a firing range, either will do. Quick dirty joke: What's blue and Sticky? Smurf cum.
35. Favorite ex?
Nope.
36. Do you want platinum or gold for your wedding band?
Gold.
37. Have you ever paid to have your eyebrows waxed?
Sounds harrowing. No.
38. Do you shave your back?
Sounds harrowing. No.
39. Have you ever watched porn and thought it was funny?
Yes. But not on purpose.
40. Have you ever flashed someone?
Just what would I be flashing? Genitalia? Cash?
41. Who is your best friend?
My wife.
42. How many children do you want to have?
3
43. Are you pro-choice or pro-life?
Pro-choice.
44. Republican or Democrat?
Neither, but I vote against the Republicans.
45. What religion (if any) are you?
None.
47.Do you think that the tobacco companies should pay for people's medical bills?
No, but we should tax the living sh*t out of them to pay for smokers who can't afford insurance.
48. What scares you
Darth Cheney. My kids in the military. Ignorant leadership. Fundamentalist Christianity. Fundamentaism [any religion].
49. What makes you happy?
Laughter. Piles of money. Spare time.
50. If you could have one person in your bed tonight who would it be?
My wife. (Am I boring yet?) And she's not even looking over my shoulder.
Sunday, July 09, 2006
Trip to Albert Lea
For reasons I won't go into here (because they are mired in the everyday minutiae of life), I had a chance to bring my family to Albert Lea. Of course Katie's been there several times, but the boys haven't been in a couple of years, and, frankly, they slept through the trip last time. Megan remembered some of it, but not much.
We started our trip south of town at Halverson Elementary School.
This is the door I remember going in every day after the bus dropped us off.
This is the door the teachers came in. It looks like this is the main entrance now.
Then we went to the farm. The new owner appears to be doing some major renovation.
Notice the power line has been moved, as has the front door. Hmm, good for him/her.
Here's Southwest "Middle" School, in my day known as Southwest Junior High. Not much seems to have changed, except it's a middle school now.
And finally, to finish the school pictures, we went to the High School. Here is where the high school used to be. It almost brought a tear to my eye. Photo is taken from the parking lot. It's going to be an auxiliary lot for the Albert Lea Medical Center.
Here is the Post Office. Nothing different here.
Just check out the state of disrepair the Broadway is in. Think of all the movies you saw there! What a damn shame! I waited in line to see Star Wars there. And Mandingo! And Popeye. Broadway sucks now. Most of the shops have something in them, but it's easy to see that it's not the city center anymore. Hasn't been for 20 years I imagine.
I'd love to hear from some of you native Albert Leans on this. Has anyone else been there lately? Oh my god, it's really sad. My kids do have a better appreciation about where I grew up, but wow, what a difference.
We started our trip south of town at Halverson Elementary School.
This is the door I remember going in every day after the bus dropped us off.
This is the door the teachers came in. It looks like this is the main entrance now.
Then we went to the farm. The new owner appears to be doing some major renovation.
Notice the power line has been moved, as has the front door. Hmm, good for him/her.
Here's Southwest "Middle" School, in my day known as Southwest Junior High. Not much seems to have changed, except it's a middle school now.
And finally, to finish the school pictures, we went to the High School. Here is where the high school used to be. It almost brought a tear to my eye. Photo is taken from the parking lot. It's going to be an auxiliary lot for the Albert Lea Medical Center.
Here is the Post Office. Nothing different here.
Just check out the state of disrepair the Broadway is in. Think of all the movies you saw there! What a damn shame! I waited in line to see Star Wars there. And Mandingo! And Popeye. Broadway sucks now. Most of the shops have something in them, but it's easy to see that it's not the city center anymore. Hasn't been for 20 years I imagine.
I'd love to hear from some of you native Albert Leans on this. Has anyone else been there lately? Oh my god, it's really sad. My kids do have a better appreciation about where I grew up, but wow, what a difference.
Friday, June 30, 2006
Inside the Actors Studio with Me
Here are the questions that James Lipton asks each guest at the end of the show (Inside the Actors Studio) and my answers:
1. What is your favorite word?
Glazed breasts and sticky buns. So many, many connotations.
2. What is your least favorite word?
Shizzle. What the f**k is that derived from?
3. What turns you on?
Glazed breasts and sticky buns.
4. What turns you off?
Seeing mediocrity awarded with acclaim.
5. What sound or noise do you love?
My wife and kids laughing. Anyone laughing.
6. What sound or noise do you hate?
The sound of anything that comes in contact with styrofoam raises the hairs on my neck.
7. What is your favorite curse word?
Are you kidding? Are you f**king kidding?
8. What profession other than yours would you like to attempt?
Celebrity writer - a writer who IS a celebrity, not a writer who writes about celebrities.
9. What profession would you not like to participate in?
Pediatric Oncology.
10. If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the pearly gates? To me: "Ha, you were wrong. And don't worry. Jim Bakker, Jerry Falwell, and Pat Robertson will never be here.
You'll be staying in the 'Glazed Breasts and Sticky Buns' wing. Enjoy!"
1. What is your favorite word?
Glazed breasts and sticky buns. So many, many connotations.
2. What is your least favorite word?
Shizzle. What the f**k is that derived from?
3. What turns you on?
Glazed breasts and sticky buns.
4. What turns you off?
Seeing mediocrity awarded with acclaim.
5. What sound or noise do you love?
My wife and kids laughing. Anyone laughing.
6. What sound or noise do you hate?
The sound of anything that comes in contact with styrofoam raises the hairs on my neck.
7. What is your favorite curse word?
Are you kidding? Are you f**king kidding?
8. What profession other than yours would you like to attempt?
Celebrity writer - a writer who IS a celebrity, not a writer who writes about celebrities.
9. What profession would you not like to participate in?
Pediatric Oncology.
10. If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the pearly gates? To me: "Ha, you were wrong. And don't worry. Jim Bakker, Jerry Falwell, and Pat Robertson will never be here.
You'll be staying in the 'Glazed Breasts and Sticky Buns' wing. Enjoy!"
Things You Don't Want a Co-Worker to Say to You
1. I think I saw someone run into your car.
2. Someone in HR accidentally emailed your salary to everyone in the company.
3. I'd like you to be in charge while everyone else in the department is on vacation.
4. You left your magazine in the first stall.
5. Did you hear? They've laid off X people today. And, on a completely unrelated topic - your boss is looking for you.
6. I'd like you to speak at the all-hands meeting.
7. I think I saw the CEO run into your car.
8. I'm pretty sure I ate your lunch from the fridge. You can have mine. Oh wait, I forgot mine.
9. So you're wearing red underwear today?
10. When I masturbate, I think about you.
2. Someone in HR accidentally emailed your salary to everyone in the company.
3. I'd like you to be in charge while everyone else in the department is on vacation.
4. You left your magazine in the first stall.
5. Did you hear? They've laid off X people today. And, on a completely unrelated topic - your boss is looking for you.
6. I'd like you to speak at the all-hands meeting.
7. I think I saw the CEO run into your car.
8. I'm pretty sure I ate your lunch from the fridge. You can have mine. Oh wait, I forgot mine.
9. So you're wearing red underwear today?
10. When I masturbate, I think about you.
Sunday, June 25, 2006
Sunday, June 18, 2006
Watching Time Go By
Date: Memorial Day 2006
Time: 9:11am
Setting: my bedroom, curtains drawn
This isn't going where you think. A few months ago, I bought Katie a new alarm clock. More convenient than the famed "Clapper", this alarm clock projects the time onto the ceiling directly above the bed. So, to see the time, you must only lay on your back and stare at the ceiling. (Which has led us to timing activities that really shouldn't be timed - nudge, nudge, wink, wink. But that topic is for a different time...)
Being a non-working day, Katie slept in, as she is want to do. I was already up with the kids, but came back in to dress for the day. For some reason, I jumped back into bed with Katie.
"What are we doing today?" she asked.
"I don't know." I lay next to her, staring at - you guessed it - the time projected on the ceiling. The digital readout said 9:11.
Owen popped into the room. "What sleeves should I wear today?" Which is his way of asking if he should wear long or short sleeves. Katie motioned for him to join us on the bed, which he did. He too stared at the ceiling time.
"What do you want to do today?" Katie asked Owen. Then the clock "flicked" to 9:12, which we all acknowledged with a brief pause in our conversation. Just a slight hesitation, not a conscious pause.
He told us (I don't even remember now weeks later) and Katie told him to go get Jackson and have him come to our room, which he did. But not before more brief pauses at 9:13, 9:14 and 9:15.
Jackson entered and Katie motioned for him to join us on the bed. 9:16. "What do you want to do today, Jackson?"
"Cool," he stared up at the time on the ceiling. "How does that work?" Katie pointed to her nightstand, then ran her hand through the projection to show him how it worked. 9:17. He giggled when it switched.
The 3 of us stared for a few more minutes, blurting "there" or "oh" when the clock changed. We couldn't take our eyes off the clock.
Finally we asked Jackson to go get Megan so we could see what she wanted to do. Owen rejoined us, this time under the sheets, followed in short order by Jackson (also under the covers). Then Megan entered, staring incredulously at her 2 brothers and her parents, laying abreast and tucked snugly into our bed, staring rather intently at the ceiling in a semi-darkened room.
"What are you guys doing?"
"Staring at the clock," I said. "There it goes," we all said as it jumped to 9:20 the second I finished saying the word "clock".
Megan laughed at us, not with us.
"What do you want to do today?" Katie asked Megan.
Megan smushed her way onto the bed with us. We now lay 5 abreast in our queen sized bed. 9:21. We all grunt acknowledgement of the time change.
For the next few minutes we chat about the day - we decide on Over the Hedge and a bike ride. Each minute we stop and acknowledge the time change, either with a surprised giggle or a new convention, first put forward by Jackson, where the first one to say the new time got to ... well, say the new time. It was its own reward.
9:32
"Okay, everyone be quiet until 9:33," I say, mostly because I like to make rules. The room goes silent. You can feel the anticipation. Waiting. Waiting.
Owen can't handle it and giggles. Jackson shushes him.
More waiting. "Wow, long minute," I think.
9:33. The room erupts with laughter. Belly laughs. No, hernia-inducing laughs. We laugh to release the pent up anticipation. We laugh at ourselves. I mean, how silly is this?
After a few more minutes, Megan departs. She's finally decided she's too cool for this - she's almost a teenager now, you know.
At 9:50 we are ready to leave. "We can't go until 10:00" I declare. "Just think of all those digits changing all at once."
"Cooooool." I had Jackson convinced.
"Ten more minutes in bed. I'm in." Katie was onboard.
"9:51" Owen won that minute - and he was in too.
Did you know that 9:56 - if you disregard the colon - is the same rightside up or upside down? We discovered this.
The time change to 10:00 came quickly, it seemed. We all enjoyed it, and shouted with glee. I imagined Megan shaking her head in disbelief in her bedroom. But we'd been watching the clock for nearly an hour, and saw the ten o'clock hour be delivered and projected on the ceiling. Nothing beats that.
Yeah, we liked the movie and the bike ride. But I will always remember that, on Memorial Day 2006, we all sat in bed and watched the time go by for almost an hour. Does life get any better than that?
Time: 9:11am
Setting: my bedroom, curtains drawn
This isn't going where you think. A few months ago, I bought Katie a new alarm clock. More convenient than the famed "Clapper", this alarm clock projects the time onto the ceiling directly above the bed. So, to see the time, you must only lay on your back and stare at the ceiling. (Which has led us to timing activities that really shouldn't be timed - nudge, nudge, wink, wink. But that topic is for a different time...)
Being a non-working day, Katie slept in, as she is want to do. I was already up with the kids, but came back in to dress for the day. For some reason, I jumped back into bed with Katie.
"What are we doing today?" she asked.
"I don't know." I lay next to her, staring at - you guessed it - the time projected on the ceiling. The digital readout said 9:11.
Owen popped into the room. "What sleeves should I wear today?" Which is his way of asking if he should wear long or short sleeves. Katie motioned for him to join us on the bed, which he did. He too stared at the ceiling time.
"What do you want to do today?" Katie asked Owen. Then the clock "flicked" to 9:12, which we all acknowledged with a brief pause in our conversation. Just a slight hesitation, not a conscious pause.
He told us (I don't even remember now weeks later) and Katie told him to go get Jackson and have him come to our room, which he did. But not before more brief pauses at 9:13, 9:14 and 9:15.
Jackson entered and Katie motioned for him to join us on the bed. 9:16. "What do you want to do today, Jackson?"
"Cool," he stared up at the time on the ceiling. "How does that work?" Katie pointed to her nightstand, then ran her hand through the projection to show him how it worked. 9:17. He giggled when it switched.
The 3 of us stared for a few more minutes, blurting "there" or "oh" when the clock changed. We couldn't take our eyes off the clock.
Finally we asked Jackson to go get Megan so we could see what she wanted to do. Owen rejoined us, this time under the sheets, followed in short order by Jackson (also under the covers). Then Megan entered, staring incredulously at her 2 brothers and her parents, laying abreast and tucked snugly into our bed, staring rather intently at the ceiling in a semi-darkened room.
"What are you guys doing?"
"Staring at the clock," I said. "There it goes," we all said as it jumped to 9:20 the second I finished saying the word "clock".
Megan laughed at us, not with us.
"What do you want to do today?" Katie asked Megan.
Megan smushed her way onto the bed with us. We now lay 5 abreast in our queen sized bed. 9:21. We all grunt acknowledgement of the time change.
For the next few minutes we chat about the day - we decide on Over the Hedge and a bike ride. Each minute we stop and acknowledge the time change, either with a surprised giggle or a new convention, first put forward by Jackson, where the first one to say the new time got to ... well, say the new time. It was its own reward.
9:32
"Okay, everyone be quiet until 9:33," I say, mostly because I like to make rules. The room goes silent. You can feel the anticipation. Waiting. Waiting.
Owen can't handle it and giggles. Jackson shushes him.
More waiting. "Wow, long minute," I think.
9:33. The room erupts with laughter. Belly laughs. No, hernia-inducing laughs. We laugh to release the pent up anticipation. We laugh at ourselves. I mean, how silly is this?
After a few more minutes, Megan departs. She's finally decided she's too cool for this - she's almost a teenager now, you know.
At 9:50 we are ready to leave. "We can't go until 10:00" I declare. "Just think of all those digits changing all at once."
"Cooooool." I had Jackson convinced.
"Ten more minutes in bed. I'm in." Katie was onboard.
"9:51" Owen won that minute - and he was in too.
Did you know that 9:56 - if you disregard the colon - is the same rightside up or upside down? We discovered this.
The time change to 10:00 came quickly, it seemed. We all enjoyed it, and shouted with glee. I imagined Megan shaking her head in disbelief in her bedroom. But we'd been watching the clock for nearly an hour, and saw the ten o'clock hour be delivered and projected on the ceiling. Nothing beats that.
Yeah, we liked the movie and the bike ride. But I will always remember that, on Memorial Day 2006, we all sat in bed and watched the time go by for almost an hour. Does life get any better than that?
Wednesday, May 17, 2006
Why I don't write for a living
I'm not sure what's gotten into me this evening. Nostalgia, perhaps. I dug out my writing folder from college. It contains my collected works, at least the ones that I have on paper. I have more on my hard drive, and on floppy, each backed up and stored in random (and unknown to me at this moment) locations throughout my house.
I don't think I'm the typical writer type. I don't read much - relatively speaking. My wife and daughter read constantly - annoyingly so on occasion. I listened to Stephen King's On Writing on CD (his autobiography, not one of his horror stories) and he recommends that any aspiring writer read constantly. If you have 15 spare minutes, he suggests, you should fill it by reading. That doesn't work for me.
What really inspired me to even begin writing was the promise of a high school course taught by one of the most revered teachers at Albert Lea High School (Mr. Cooper) called "Humor and Satire". My older siblings raved about it. I've never heard such hearty laughs. "That's for me," I thought.
Sadly, mine being the era of declining enrollment, that course was no longer offered by the time I could take it. But Mr. Cooper did teach a creative writing course, so I snagged it instead. He remembered my siblings being a creative bunch but did not burden me with their baggage (I remember meeting my 6th grade teacher and he told a friend of mine that his brother had been in his class a couple of years before and that my friend had "big shoes to fill". It deflated my friend, always having to hear about his wonderful older brother. Since that day I've always really appreciated teachers who treat each sibling independently.)
I wrote 2 stories that I remember for that class. I have since lost the paper versions and all that remains are the summaries, but I think it'll give you an idea of my work.
The first story was about a night lotman at a drive in theater. I literally plagiarized the first 2 or 3 paragraphs from a story my brother Ted left in his old bedroom (my bedroom my senior year of high school). Ted had been a night lotman at the drive in theater in Albert Lea and had a great start for the story. I asked him later where the rest of the story was and he said he'd never finished it, so I don't feel bad having stolen the first couple of paragraphs. Anyway, in the story, this night lotman is summoned to retrieve something from a storage room and while there he finds a peephole into the ladies' bathroom. He spies a gorgeous woman - I remember a line like "her breasts bounced to and fro like jello when one jiggles its bowl". He follows her back to her boyfriend's Trans Am, then pouts about his lot in life. After his shift, so late as to be near sunrise, the lotman arrives home to see the local news, where that same Trans Am has been destroyed in an accident. "Both passengers were killed" says the anchorman.
I think there was a word limit to the assignment so I killed her off. I do remember Mr. Cooper pinged me because she was the passenger and her boyfriend was the driver, so the correct line should have been "Both occupants were killed."
I thought I was being pretty risque for a small-town high school senior. I don't know what anyone else wrote, but I'm sure mine was pretty different.
The second story (made up completely on my own this time) was about an aging football player. He was an offensive lineman - a thankless position usually filled with relatively anonymous men. His assignment was to block the nearly unblockable man in the biggest game of the year. I remember setting the unblockable man up as a near mythical creature by having the anonymous o-lineman see him a crowded restaurant the night before the game. Our aging hero watched this nearly 300 pound man (that was a HUGE lineman for the 1980's) chase down and catch a fly using chopsticks while nimbly negotiating a crowded Chinese restaurant.
Our hero performed admirably on game day until a pileup late in the 4th quarter of a close game. Crazy things happen in those pileups on the goalline, you see. In this pileup, our hero's hand somehow ended up in the pants of the unblockable man. The unblockable man ejaculated on the hero's hand, right there in the pileup. I believe there was some kind of terrible pun in there:
Aging Hero, challenging Unblockable Man to a fight in the pileup: "Come on, man!"
In the words of our hero, "and he came, right there, on my hand."
Eww. Isn't that awful? In my defense, I was only 17.
Anyway, I've linked a story I wrote my senior year of college at the bottom of this post. My very last quarter in college I had 3 night classes - Computer Science 3400 - theory of algorithms, Art History - the films of Alfred Hitchcock, and Intro to Fiction Writing. An easy quarter by any measure. The story linked below was an afterthought I threw together 2 days before it was due. The class had only 2 writing assignments - a long short story and a short short story. Below is the short short story.
It's kind of a stretch for me. I'm definitely from the "write what you know" school of writing, so writing a story from a woman's perspective was a challenge. The professor, who was a woman, absolutely loved this story, much moreso than my long short story. I thought just the opposite. Anyway, if I get around to retyping the long short story I'll post that too.
Anyway, I really like the opening paragraph of this one. Click the link and enjoy. I had fun retyping it. I probably haven't read it for 15 years.
The Reunion by Phil Gonzalez, 1989
I don't think I'm the typical writer type. I don't read much - relatively speaking. My wife and daughter read constantly - annoyingly so on occasion. I listened to Stephen King's On Writing on CD (his autobiography, not one of his horror stories) and he recommends that any aspiring writer read constantly. If you have 15 spare minutes, he suggests, you should fill it by reading. That doesn't work for me.
What really inspired me to even begin writing was the promise of a high school course taught by one of the most revered teachers at Albert Lea High School (Mr. Cooper) called "Humor and Satire". My older siblings raved about it. I've never heard such hearty laughs. "That's for me," I thought.
Sadly, mine being the era of declining enrollment, that course was no longer offered by the time I could take it. But Mr. Cooper did teach a creative writing course, so I snagged it instead. He remembered my siblings being a creative bunch but did not burden me with their baggage (I remember meeting my 6th grade teacher and he told a friend of mine that his brother had been in his class a couple of years before and that my friend had "big shoes to fill". It deflated my friend, always having to hear about his wonderful older brother. Since that day I've always really appreciated teachers who treat each sibling independently.)
I wrote 2 stories that I remember for that class. I have since lost the paper versions and all that remains are the summaries, but I think it'll give you an idea of my work.
The first story was about a night lotman at a drive in theater. I literally plagiarized the first 2 or 3 paragraphs from a story my brother Ted left in his old bedroom (my bedroom my senior year of high school). Ted had been a night lotman at the drive in theater in Albert Lea and had a great start for the story. I asked him later where the rest of the story was and he said he'd never finished it, so I don't feel bad having stolen the first couple of paragraphs. Anyway, in the story, this night lotman is summoned to retrieve something from a storage room and while there he finds a peephole into the ladies' bathroom. He spies a gorgeous woman - I remember a line like "her breasts bounced to and fro like jello when one jiggles its bowl". He follows her back to her boyfriend's Trans Am, then pouts about his lot in life. After his shift, so late as to be near sunrise, the lotman arrives home to see the local news, where that same Trans Am has been destroyed in an accident. "Both passengers were killed" says the anchorman.
I think there was a word limit to the assignment so I killed her off. I do remember Mr. Cooper pinged me because she was the passenger and her boyfriend was the driver, so the correct line should have been "Both occupants were killed."
I thought I was being pretty risque for a small-town high school senior. I don't know what anyone else wrote, but I'm sure mine was pretty different.
The second story (made up completely on my own this time) was about an aging football player. He was an offensive lineman - a thankless position usually filled with relatively anonymous men. His assignment was to block the nearly unblockable man in the biggest game of the year. I remember setting the unblockable man up as a near mythical creature by having the anonymous o-lineman see him a crowded restaurant the night before the game. Our aging hero watched this nearly 300 pound man (that was a HUGE lineman for the 1980's) chase down and catch a fly using chopsticks while nimbly negotiating a crowded Chinese restaurant.
Our hero performed admirably on game day until a pileup late in the 4th quarter of a close game. Crazy things happen in those pileups on the goalline, you see. In this pileup, our hero's hand somehow ended up in the pants of the unblockable man. The unblockable man ejaculated on the hero's hand, right there in the pileup. I believe there was some kind of terrible pun in there:
Aging Hero, challenging Unblockable Man to a fight in the pileup: "Come on, man!"
In the words of our hero, "and he came, right there, on my hand."
Eww. Isn't that awful? In my defense, I was only 17.
Anyway, I've linked a story I wrote my senior year of college at the bottom of this post. My very last quarter in college I had 3 night classes - Computer Science 3400 - theory of algorithms, Art History - the films of Alfred Hitchcock, and Intro to Fiction Writing. An easy quarter by any measure. The story linked below was an afterthought I threw together 2 days before it was due. The class had only 2 writing assignments - a long short story and a short short story. Below is the short short story.
It's kind of a stretch for me. I'm definitely from the "write what you know" school of writing, so writing a story from a woman's perspective was a challenge. The professor, who was a woman, absolutely loved this story, much moreso than my long short story. I thought just the opposite. Anyway, if I get around to retyping the long short story I'll post that too.
Anyway, I really like the opening paragraph of this one. Click the link and enjoy. I had fun retyping it. I probably haven't read it for 15 years.
The Reunion by Phil Gonzalez, 1989
Tuesday, May 09, 2006
Giving Blood
The following story is not meant to deter anyone from giving blood. Giving blood is an important service to the community and society. I've given blood on many, many occasions and the following story is an anomaly.
I've given blood "at the office" for years, since my brother's car accident (another story for another day). I mean, they come to my workplace and everything, how can you deny them? So this is the story of how I didn't give blood today - at least any blood they could use. I'll use actual names because, well, I don't know these people and I would testify in court (if I had to) that this is what really happened.
I showed up on time for my appointment and read the requisite warning message about giving blood (you can't give if you're HIV positive, for example. Duh!). Next, I made the short trek out to the "blood bus", a former school bus that the blood bank people converted into a "blood-mobile". Once inside, I met Natalya, a young (early 20s?) nurse? and endured many questions about my travels, my sex life, and several other personal choices. The questions border on the ridiculous. Consider:
-Between the years 1980 and 1996, did you collectively spend more that 3 months in any of the following countries: Britain, Germany, the Ivory Coast, Uganda, Madagascar, etc, etc, etc.
-Have you had sex with a man since 1977? (I presume they don't ask women this question.)
-Have you taken IV drugs not prescribed by a doctor?
-Have you had sex with someone who has taken IV drugs not prescribed by a doctor?
-Have you ever paid for sex?
-Have you ever paid for sex with someone who took IV drugs not prescribed by a doctor?
-Have you ever paid for sex with a doctor who prescribed IV drugs?
Okay, maybe that last one wasn't actually one of the questions, but it very well may have been. It's basically an exercise in a)Reading fast (Natalya's part); and b)Saying, "No" (my part). I'm not sure either of us was paying full attention. Anyway, once Natalya had checked my iron (43 - an acceptable score) and my blood pressure (124/88), I was ready to go.
I prefer the left arm for this procedure for no particular reason. So I settled in and let the process begin. Natalya and I continue our Question - "No" exercise. "Are you allergic to iodine or betadyne?" I'm asked. "No" So she wrapped a velcro belt around my upper arm and began the vein-finding process, which for me has always been easy. She marked spots around the vein with a Sharpie-brand permanent marker, then started swabbing the area with the io- and beta- dines.
Finally, the needle prick. I hate the thought or sight of any foreign object entering my body. I always look away for the needle part. So I ask Natalya to tell me when the needle's about to go in so I can look away, and she complies. I stare out the bus window. It's sunny. Oh look, there's so and so going off to lunch. Hey, that's a nice c.....
PRICK!
There, that's not so bad. A little pinch, then I can start...
"Oops"
I hear Natalya mutter something under her breath. It couldn't have been "Oops," could it? Naah, I'll just keep looking out the window, then she'll tell me to squeeze my hand every few seconds and I'll be out of here in 10 minutes.
"Um..." Natalya is trying to get my attention. What was that I felt? Did she accidentally pull the needle out?!?
"Can you hold this?" Natalya is pressing a bloody gauze pad on my needle site. "The needle came out," she says sheepishly.
When I muster the courage to look, I notice there is blood covering the armrest where my arm rests and is dripping on the floor. My blood. Definitely not going into that plastic bag. Nope. It's right there on the floor.
A more senior nurse looks over and gives Natalya a "your patient is dripping blood on the floor" look, which Natalya responds with a "I think I fucked up" look. "Would you like some help?" asks the senior nurse.
The two nurses hurriedly cleaned up my bloody mess, while other donors watched helplessly, gently squeezing their blood neatly into their plastic bags. They hid their fear well. On more than one occasion both Natalya and the senior nurse asked me, with actual nurse-like concern, "Are you okay?" Each time I nodded vacantly.
I wish the story ended here. In retrospect, I should have stopped it right here. Karma, the gods, whoever, would be preventing me from giving blood on this day. But I persisted. I've seen the patients who use the blood at the hospital, and they are much worse off than I, so I should quit whining and switch arms.
"So, shall we give it another shot?" I ask the senior nurse. This induces a double-take. "You really wanna do that?" she asks. Buoyed by my visits to my brother's hospital room, I bravely declare, "yeah, sure."
So I switch arms and begin the process again. I try to make small talk with Natalya, whose confidence has noticeably sagged. Since she had to throw away the first plastic blood bag, she also now has to relabel all those little vials and get a new bag. It's awkward enough, so I say something about re-sticking the barcode labels onto the vials, and she grunts an unintelligible answer.
"Are you okay with me doing this again?" Natalya asks as we get to the needle part again. This is a moral dilemma, really. What I'd really like to say - what I would have said without inhibition - was "Um...NO BLEEPIN' WAY!" However, given her sagging confidence, I thought it might be bad for future donors if I said that. Plus, what a great guy I'd be for giving Natalya the confidence she needs to finish her assignments for the rest of the day.
"Yeah, sure," I blare confidently. I give her my "Go get 'em" look. Rah Rah. Phil, you're a great guy.
PRICK!
"Ow," I say involuntarily. "It burns."
Natalya persists. I can feel her feeling around for the vein with the needle. "Is that better?"
"Yeah, a little, I guess..." But Natalya never leaves my side. Now she's watching the bag. It's still empty. I can see some blood in the tube, but it's not making it to the bag. I check the armrest. So does Natalya, which is disconcerting. So much so she asks, with serious concern, "Are you okay?"
"Yeah, sure," I mutter.
Natalya calls the senior nurse over again. Senior nurse proceeds to move the needle around in my arm and they watch the bag intently.
"Is something wrong?" I ask.
"You're not filling up the bag fast enough," senior nurse tells me. "We'll give it another minute."
Another minute goes by, with senior nurse and Natalya watching the bag. Senior nurse says to Natalya, "It's too slow, let's just stop." Then she looks to me and says, "I guess it's just not your day," and walked away.
Natalya took what seemed like forever getting the needle out of my arm. She mentioned that it was likely that this site would bruise and swell, and if it does I should ice it. Then she said, "Sorry."
So, to sum up, I got stuck with needles twice, bled quite a bit, but gave no blood today. I'll give blood the next time they visit my employer, but I can honestly tell you that I'm not brave enough to endure another blood letting at Natalya's hands.
I've given blood "at the office" for years, since my brother's car accident (another story for another day). I mean, they come to my workplace and everything, how can you deny them? So this is the story of how I didn't give blood today - at least any blood they could use. I'll use actual names because, well, I don't know these people and I would testify in court (if I had to) that this is what really happened.
I showed up on time for my appointment and read the requisite warning message about giving blood (you can't give if you're HIV positive, for example. Duh!). Next, I made the short trek out to the "blood bus", a former school bus that the blood bank people converted into a "blood-mobile". Once inside, I met Natalya, a young (early 20s?) nurse? and endured many questions about my travels, my sex life, and several other personal choices. The questions border on the ridiculous. Consider:
-Between the years 1980 and 1996, did you collectively spend more that 3 months in any of the following countries: Britain, Germany, the Ivory Coast, Uganda, Madagascar, etc, etc, etc.
-Have you had sex with a man since 1977? (I presume they don't ask women this question.)
-Have you taken IV drugs not prescribed by a doctor?
-Have you had sex with someone who has taken IV drugs not prescribed by a doctor?
-Have you ever paid for sex?
-Have you ever paid for sex with someone who took IV drugs not prescribed by a doctor?
-Have you ever paid for sex with a doctor who prescribed IV drugs?
Okay, maybe that last one wasn't actually one of the questions, but it very well may have been. It's basically an exercise in a)Reading fast (Natalya's part); and b)Saying, "No" (my part). I'm not sure either of us was paying full attention. Anyway, once Natalya had checked my iron (43 - an acceptable score) and my blood pressure (124/88), I was ready to go.
I prefer the left arm for this procedure for no particular reason. So I settled in and let the process begin. Natalya and I continue our Question - "No" exercise. "Are you allergic to iodine or betadyne?" I'm asked. "No" So she wrapped a velcro belt around my upper arm and began the vein-finding process, which for me has always been easy. She marked spots around the vein with a Sharpie-brand permanent marker, then started swabbing the area with the io- and beta- dines.
Finally, the needle prick. I hate the thought or sight of any foreign object entering my body. I always look away for the needle part. So I ask Natalya to tell me when the needle's about to go in so I can look away, and she complies. I stare out the bus window. It's sunny. Oh look, there's so and so going off to lunch. Hey, that's a nice c.....
PRICK!
There, that's not so bad. A little pinch, then I can start...
"Oops"
I hear Natalya mutter something under her breath. It couldn't have been "Oops," could it? Naah, I'll just keep looking out the window, then she'll tell me to squeeze my hand every few seconds and I'll be out of here in 10 minutes.
"Um..." Natalya is trying to get my attention. What was that I felt? Did she accidentally pull the needle out?!?
"Can you hold this?" Natalya is pressing a bloody gauze pad on my needle site. "The needle came out," she says sheepishly.
When I muster the courage to look, I notice there is blood covering the armrest where my arm rests and is dripping on the floor. My blood. Definitely not going into that plastic bag. Nope. It's right there on the floor.
A more senior nurse looks over and gives Natalya a "your patient is dripping blood on the floor" look, which Natalya responds with a "I think I fucked up" look. "Would you like some help?" asks the senior nurse.
The two nurses hurriedly cleaned up my bloody mess, while other donors watched helplessly, gently squeezing their blood neatly into their plastic bags. They hid their fear well. On more than one occasion both Natalya and the senior nurse asked me, with actual nurse-like concern, "Are you okay?" Each time I nodded vacantly.
I wish the story ended here. In retrospect, I should have stopped it right here. Karma, the gods, whoever, would be preventing me from giving blood on this day. But I persisted. I've seen the patients who use the blood at the hospital, and they are much worse off than I, so I should quit whining and switch arms.
"So, shall we give it another shot?" I ask the senior nurse. This induces a double-take. "You really wanna do that?" she asks. Buoyed by my visits to my brother's hospital room, I bravely declare, "yeah, sure."
So I switch arms and begin the process again. I try to make small talk with Natalya, whose confidence has noticeably sagged. Since she had to throw away the first plastic blood bag, she also now has to relabel all those little vials and get a new bag. It's awkward enough, so I say something about re-sticking the barcode labels onto the vials, and she grunts an unintelligible answer.
"Are you okay with me doing this again?" Natalya asks as we get to the needle part again. This is a moral dilemma, really. What I'd really like to say - what I would have said without inhibition - was "Um...NO BLEEPIN' WAY!" However, given her sagging confidence, I thought it might be bad for future donors if I said that. Plus, what a great guy I'd be for giving Natalya the confidence she needs to finish her assignments for the rest of the day.
"Yeah, sure," I blare confidently. I give her my "Go get 'em" look. Rah Rah. Phil, you're a great guy.
PRICK!
"Ow," I say involuntarily. "It burns."
Natalya persists. I can feel her feeling around for the vein with the needle. "Is that better?"
"Yeah, a little, I guess..." But Natalya never leaves my side. Now she's watching the bag. It's still empty. I can see some blood in the tube, but it's not making it to the bag. I check the armrest. So does Natalya, which is disconcerting. So much so she asks, with serious concern, "Are you okay?"
"Yeah, sure," I mutter.
Natalya calls the senior nurse over again. Senior nurse proceeds to move the needle around in my arm and they watch the bag intently.
"Is something wrong?" I ask.
"You're not filling up the bag fast enough," senior nurse tells me. "We'll give it another minute."
Another minute goes by, with senior nurse and Natalya watching the bag. Senior nurse says to Natalya, "It's too slow, let's just stop." Then she looks to me and says, "I guess it's just not your day," and walked away.
Natalya took what seemed like forever getting the needle out of my arm. She mentioned that it was likely that this site would bruise and swell, and if it does I should ice it. Then she said, "Sorry."
So, to sum up, I got stuck with needles twice, bled quite a bit, but gave no blood today. I'll give blood the next time they visit my employer, but I can honestly tell you that I'm not brave enough to endure another blood letting at Natalya's hands.
Sunday, May 07, 2006
Cool Web Sites - First Edition
In what I believe will be the first in a series...
Who doesn't have a bevy of cool sites? Here are some odd ones that I've collected over time:
1. Animated Knots by Grog - nifty animation showing how to tie any knot imaginable.
2. Google Voyeur Heaven - this is not what you think it is. Put another way, it's a great tool if used for good purposes. I use it to find music. Really. It really allows you to prey on the weaker-minded webmasters out there. (There's a long and technical explanation that I won't bore you with.)
3. J-Walk Blog - my favorite blog. "Stuff that may or may not interest you."
4. Bandwidth Meter - tells you what speed you're really getting from your ISP. A handy tool when things slow down for no apparent reason.
5. A Handbook of Rhetorical Devices - something anyone who writes should know.
6. Perfect Pizza Recipe I've eaten and made lots of pizza. This site is the recipe I've stuck with.
That'll have to do for tonight. Feel free to share some of yours as well.
Phil
Who doesn't have a bevy of cool sites? Here are some odd ones that I've collected over time:
1. Animated Knots by Grog - nifty animation showing how to tie any knot imaginable.
2. Google Voyeur Heaven - this is not what you think it is. Put another way, it's a great tool if used for good purposes. I use it to find music. Really. It really allows you to prey on the weaker-minded webmasters out there. (There's a long and technical explanation that I won't bore you with.)
3. J-Walk Blog - my favorite blog. "Stuff that may or may not interest you."
4. Bandwidth Meter - tells you what speed you're really getting from your ISP. A handy tool when things slow down for no apparent reason.
5. A Handbook of Rhetorical Devices - something anyone who writes should know.
6. Perfect Pizza Recipe I've eaten and made lots of pizza. This site is the recipe I've stuck with.
That'll have to do for tonight. Feel free to share some of yours as well.
Phil
Thursday, May 04, 2006
Garbage Everywhere
As you read in my last post, I've recently had some problems with water in my basement. Consequently, I've had to toss out a bunch of stuff that was destroyed by the water - a bunch of boxes, board games, and an old area rug (5' x 8'). None of these items was cherished, but it did get me to thinking.
In the city where I live, residents are responsible for contracting for their own garbage removal. We have 3 services from which to choose, and not surprisingly, they compete vigorously for our business. Last year we switched services and, in the process, added a second garbage can for an extra $7/month. I don't know exactly how large the cans are, but suffice it to say that they are the largest ones we could get. Collectively they are somewhat smaller than a small dumpster, but not by much.
"Phil," you say, "why do you need so much trash capacity?"
When we did the deal, we still had the greenhouse. (My property, at time of purchase, contained a house, a shed, and a greenhouse.) The greenhouse was rickety, contained broken glass, and was a haven for hornets and wasps nests (and I think the little bastards had a meth lab in there!). I had debated with my wife about how to dispose of the greenhouse - she preferred getting a dumpster while I preferred a cheaper option, any cheaper option. The dumpster would cost in excess of $400. Once I found out about the second garbage can option (cost $84/year), I had my cheaper option. So I systematically dismembered the greenhouse and over the course of several weeks last summer disposed of it through the trash.
I am just now beginning to feel the guilt over this move. Read this article about landfills. I found it very eye-opening. The bottom line is this: Landfills are never usable land once they've been landfills.
Think about this - how close would you want to live to one of these? And this - what if you had to properly dispose of all of your own garbage on your own property? It would certainly make you think twice about all the stuff you buy. Do you really want Happy Meals for the kids? Will the toys ever decompose?
I'm sure any public health official will tell you that public landfills, compared with citizen-based garbage disposal, have been a huge advancement in waste disposal. However, if you project humanity out another 10,000 years, all humans will be living on landfill. We'll probably also have our 3rd cancerous arms removed at birth.
Here's my challenge: I will start making purchasing decisions based on recyclablility and minimal packaging and reduce my "garbage footprint". Will you?
In the city where I live, residents are responsible for contracting for their own garbage removal. We have 3 services from which to choose, and not surprisingly, they compete vigorously for our business. Last year we switched services and, in the process, added a second garbage can for an extra $7/month. I don't know exactly how large the cans are, but suffice it to say that they are the largest ones we could get. Collectively they are somewhat smaller than a small dumpster, but not by much.
"Phil," you say, "why do you need so much trash capacity?"
When we did the deal, we still had the greenhouse. (My property, at time of purchase, contained a house, a shed, and a greenhouse.) The greenhouse was rickety, contained broken glass, and was a haven for hornets and wasps nests (and I think the little bastards had a meth lab in there!). I had debated with my wife about how to dispose of the greenhouse - she preferred getting a dumpster while I preferred a cheaper option, any cheaper option. The dumpster would cost in excess of $400. Once I found out about the second garbage can option (cost $84/year), I had my cheaper option. So I systematically dismembered the greenhouse and over the course of several weeks last summer disposed of it through the trash.
I am just now beginning to feel the guilt over this move. Read this article about landfills. I found it very eye-opening. The bottom line is this: Landfills are never usable land once they've been landfills.
Think about this - how close would you want to live to one of these? And this - what if you had to properly dispose of all of your own garbage on your own property? It would certainly make you think twice about all the stuff you buy. Do you really want Happy Meals for the kids? Will the toys ever decompose?
I'm sure any public health official will tell you that public landfills, compared with citizen-based garbage disposal, have been a huge advancement in waste disposal. However, if you project humanity out another 10,000 years, all humans will be living on landfill. We'll probably also have our 3rd cancerous arms removed at birth.
Here's my challenge: I will start making purchasing decisions based on recyclablility and minimal packaging and reduce my "garbage footprint". Will you?
Water Everywhere
Okay, so I apparently attract water into the basement of any home I own. That's where my energy has been this week. We had 4 straight days of rain - accumulating about 3 inches. It was a slow, steady rain - not a huge thunderstorm-link 3 inches in 45 minutes kind of thing. The rain started Friday and ended Monday.
Anyway, when I woke up Monday morning and went to the basement - there it was. Not 4 inches deep throughout the entire basement - that happened in my last house (a completely different story) - but wet in 2 different rooms. The carpet was saturated and where there was no carpet, standing water that the cats were afraid to jump in.
So I retrieved the "suk-o-lux" (aka the wet-vac) from the garage and got to work. To make a long story short, after drying out the basement I embarked on an impromptu landscaping project near one wall of the basement. I did this on Monday. It's now Thursday and I'm still tired. Ug.
So I'm taking the rest of this week off from blogging.
Anyway, when I woke up Monday morning and went to the basement - there it was. Not 4 inches deep throughout the entire basement - that happened in my last house (a completely different story) - but wet in 2 different rooms. The carpet was saturated and where there was no carpet, standing water that the cats were afraid to jump in.
So I retrieved the "suk-o-lux" (aka the wet-vac) from the garage and got to work. To make a long story short, after drying out the basement I embarked on an impromptu landscaping project near one wall of the basement. I did this on Monday. It's now Thursday and I'm still tired. Ug.
So I'm taking the rest of this week off from blogging.
Wednesday, April 26, 2006
PBIS
For those of you that don't know, I have 3 children, a girl and 2 boys (born chronologically in that order). Both boys are autistic. (I'm gonna let that sink in for a second.) Both of them. Now, I'm not going to write about autism, or the autism spectrum, or any of the events surrounding our discovery of their "gifts", or my speculation on the wild increase in autism spectrum disorder diagnoses over the last 15 years (something like 80% higher than in the previous decade).
Nope. I'm going to write about serving on committees. Community service in its most primal form. You see, my wife is both by nature and by education (and soon vocation) a teacher. She's very social in that setting and recognized within her field as smart and the kind of person who should either: a)be in charge or b)serve on that committee. Those in the education profession are frequently asked to serve on committees.
Several years back she was asked to serve on a committee in the role of a parent - specifically the parent of a "Special Ed" child. As she became "committeed out", she decided to quit the committee. At the same time, I was lamenting my existence, something I try to do periodically to keep my life in balance. The thought of that day was - am I being a good role model for my children? From their perspective, I get up in the morning, make their lunches (which they probably didn't know), go to work, come home, and put them to bed while Mom was at some meeting or other. Then repeat. Pretty much the role of secondary caregiver.
While most fathers (because expectations for fatherhood are significantly lower than those for motherhood - for many fathers it is perfectly acceptable to send child support and be able to pick out their children in a police lineup) would consider this perfectly acceptable, I did not. Any idiot can do that (side note: for those idiots out there doing just that - no offense intended.) But I always wanted to be more than that.
"Honey," I said, "what if I join the committee in your place? We could tag team this committee." Then the kids would see their Dad giving something back to the community. That's just what I was looking for.
So what I'm going to write about today is my experience on said committee. The purpose of the committee is to act a parent advisors to the [School District] Director of Special Services. We meet for 2 hours once per month. You have to have a child in Special Services to be invited to participate. All schools and all ages are represented.
So I am just completing my second year on this committee, which I believe will be my last year on this committee. I may go into that later - if I remember and the posting doesn't get extremely long (too late for that). Let me summarize some of the more interesting ... things I've learned:
1. Our educational system is more rife with acronyms and buzzwords than corporate America. I didn't think it was possible, but it is. For example, who can guess what PBIS stands for? Anyone? Positive Behavioral Intervention Systems. It turns out (in Minnesota, anyway) that PBIS is a "best practice" for behavior issues. In layman's terms, rewarding good behavior is more effective than punishing bad behavior. Only in our meeting it took about 20 minutes of discussion to make sure everyone understood that.
I won't bother you with some of the others - NCLB, IDEAIA, IEP, EBD, ASD, LAC, ESAC, PACER, etc. It's just too much.
2. Studying the dynamics of a meeting is fascinating. Our fearless chairman is from corporate America and runs the meeting like I would run it. (For those of you who don't know - I run a lot of meetings, and, if I must say so, am pretty darn good at it.)
The dynamics of a meeting and the amount that the team can accomplish depend quite a bit on how well the team is acquainted. Unlike a work environment where people spend 40+ hours a week with each other and develop familial relationships, this group only meets monthly. I've bumped into some of these people at the grocery store and didn't remember them, for example. The result is that the "talkers talk and the quite folk listen to them talk", and it is the job of the chairman to solicit input from the listeners and to limit the talkers so someone else has a turn. At least that's what I think. Perhaps that's a style thing, but it seems to me that if the purpose of the committee is for parents to give feedback to the Director, than the Director would want to hear as many voices as possible.
Last night, outside of the chairman, 2 people dominated the conversation. Absolutely dominated. Like they've been doing for the 2 years I've been participating. (side note: my wife tends to be one of these talkers, so I bet when she served on the committee 3 people dominated the conversation). Anyway, I went the entire duration of the meeting without speaking. So did at least 4 other people by my count. So, there were 15 people in the room - a chairman, the Director, and 13 parents. Five of us did not speak. Two people said 90% of the rest. The other 6 contributed 10%. So essentially the Director heard 2 opinions last night. I don't believe that is the point of the committee.
3. I just have to share this one sentence for you to understand the difficulty of working with, and providing "advice" or opinions to, the Director. A direct quote:
"We need to look at some best practices methodologies systemically."
What does that mean? Is the Director paid syllablocally? I just made that word up. Hehehe. Though it does seem fitting for the occasion.
Perhaps in my next post I'll write about what I think can be done better - to "get on the solution side", as we say in corporate America. But for now, I'm done.
Nope. I'm going to write about serving on committees. Community service in its most primal form. You see, my wife is both by nature and by education (and soon vocation) a teacher. She's very social in that setting and recognized within her field as smart and the kind of person who should either: a)be in charge or b)serve on that committee. Those in the education profession are frequently asked to serve on committees.
Several years back she was asked to serve on a committee in the role of a parent - specifically the parent of a "Special Ed" child. As she became "committeed out", she decided to quit the committee. At the same time, I was lamenting my existence, something I try to do periodically to keep my life in balance. The thought of that day was - am I being a good role model for my children? From their perspective, I get up in the morning, make their lunches (which they probably didn't know), go to work, come home, and put them to bed while Mom was at some meeting or other. Then repeat. Pretty much the role of secondary caregiver.
While most fathers (because expectations for fatherhood are significantly lower than those for motherhood - for many fathers it is perfectly acceptable to send child support and be able to pick out their children in a police lineup) would consider this perfectly acceptable, I did not. Any idiot can do that (side note: for those idiots out there doing just that - no offense intended.) But I always wanted to be more than that.
"Honey," I said, "what if I join the committee in your place? We could tag team this committee." Then the kids would see their Dad giving something back to the community. That's just what I was looking for.
So what I'm going to write about today is my experience on said committee. The purpose of the committee is to act a parent advisors to the [School District] Director of Special Services. We meet for 2 hours once per month. You have to have a child in Special Services to be invited to participate. All schools and all ages are represented.
So I am just completing my second year on this committee, which I believe will be my last year on this committee. I may go into that later - if I remember and the posting doesn't get extremely long (too late for that). Let me summarize some of the more interesting ... things I've learned:
1. Our educational system is more rife with acronyms and buzzwords than corporate America. I didn't think it was possible, but it is. For example, who can guess what PBIS stands for? Anyone? Positive Behavioral Intervention Systems. It turns out (in Minnesota, anyway) that PBIS is a "best practice" for behavior issues. In layman's terms, rewarding good behavior is more effective than punishing bad behavior. Only in our meeting it took about 20 minutes of discussion to make sure everyone understood that.
I won't bother you with some of the others - NCLB, IDEAIA, IEP, EBD, ASD, LAC, ESAC, PACER, etc. It's just too much.
2. Studying the dynamics of a meeting is fascinating. Our fearless chairman is from corporate America and runs the meeting like I would run it. (For those of you who don't know - I run a lot of meetings, and, if I must say so, am pretty darn good at it.)
The dynamics of a meeting and the amount that the team can accomplish depend quite a bit on how well the team is acquainted. Unlike a work environment where people spend 40+ hours a week with each other and develop familial relationships, this group only meets monthly. I've bumped into some of these people at the grocery store and didn't remember them, for example. The result is that the "talkers talk and the quite folk listen to them talk", and it is the job of the chairman to solicit input from the listeners and to limit the talkers so someone else has a turn. At least that's what I think. Perhaps that's a style thing, but it seems to me that if the purpose of the committee is for parents to give feedback to the Director, than the Director would want to hear as many voices as possible.
Last night, outside of the chairman, 2 people dominated the conversation. Absolutely dominated. Like they've been doing for the 2 years I've been participating. (side note: my wife tends to be one of these talkers, so I bet when she served on the committee 3 people dominated the conversation). Anyway, I went the entire duration of the meeting without speaking. So did at least 4 other people by my count. So, there were 15 people in the room - a chairman, the Director, and 13 parents. Five of us did not speak. Two people said 90% of the rest. The other 6 contributed 10%. So essentially the Director heard 2 opinions last night. I don't believe that is the point of the committee.
3. I just have to share this one sentence for you to understand the difficulty of working with, and providing "advice" or opinions to, the Director. A direct quote:
"We need to look at some best practices methodologies systemically."
What does that mean? Is the Director paid syllablocally? I just made that word up. Hehehe. Though it does seem fitting for the occasion.
Perhaps in my next post I'll write about what I think can be done better - to "get on the solution side", as we say in corporate America. But for now, I'm done.
Wednesday, April 19, 2006
The Smartest Guys in the Room
I have been eating up coverage of the trial of former Enron executives Jeff Skilling and Kenneth "Kenny-Boy" Lay. I happen to think it will be a travesty of justice if these guys aren't found guilty.
Enron is fascinating to me (and maybe just me) because of the sheer complexity of its business. I highly recommend reading Smartest Guys in the Room: The Amazing Rise and Scandalous Fall of Enron. It is a long and detailed account of the company. From it I glean the following:
1. Enron promoted an environment of hostile internal competition, which created some of the biggest assholes on the planet.
2. Enron was the epitome of the arrogant corporation.
3. Jeff Skilling is/was the embodiment of the arrogant corporation. (Read any of the excerpts of his testimony - he's argumentative and combative with the prosecuting attorney, for crying out loud. Show some damn respect for the court, Jeff!) He always thought he was smarter that anyone else in the room.
4. Enron's business model was, perhaps purposely so, extremely complex, so much so that many of the so-called neutral analysts could not comprehend what was really going on. Of course none of the analysts would admit this, so instead they touted Enron's business model as a model of the future corporation.
5. Enron had extremely cozy relationships with investment banks, who both funded Enron investments and provided "independent" analysis to the market. Legislation has since remedied these arrangements, but...
6. Enron acted unethically whenever it wasn't completely obvious that said act was not illegal. In other words, where other companies would avoid something because that act was a "gray area" legally, Enron would do it just because it was a gray area.
I guess it's too late to make this a short posting, so I'll just stop here with this conclusion of mine: Skilling and Lay are either incompetent or lying. They contend that CFO Andrew Fastow pulled all the financial shenanigans right under their nose without their consent. If that's true, they are guilty of incompetence (gross negligence, really) and guilty as charged. If they were complicit in the shenanigans, they are guilty as charged. I don't know why they're even fighting it. Those two guys should be forced to hunt down each investor and do a My Name is Earl good deed to make up for this mess. Whoa! What a great idea for a reality TV show. Watch Skilling and Lay make it up to each former Enron investor. And if the ratings suck, we can still throw them in jail.
Enron is fascinating to me (and maybe just me) because of the sheer complexity of its business. I highly recommend reading Smartest Guys in the Room: The Amazing Rise and Scandalous Fall of Enron. It is a long and detailed account of the company. From it I glean the following:
1. Enron promoted an environment of hostile internal competition, which created some of the biggest assholes on the planet.
2. Enron was the epitome of the arrogant corporation.
3. Jeff Skilling is/was the embodiment of the arrogant corporation. (Read any of the excerpts of his testimony - he's argumentative and combative with the prosecuting attorney, for crying out loud. Show some damn respect for the court, Jeff!) He always thought he was smarter that anyone else in the room.
4. Enron's business model was, perhaps purposely so, extremely complex, so much so that many of the so-called neutral analysts could not comprehend what was really going on. Of course none of the analysts would admit this, so instead they touted Enron's business model as a model of the future corporation.
5. Enron had extremely cozy relationships with investment banks, who both funded Enron investments and provided "independent" analysis to the market. Legislation has since remedied these arrangements, but...
6. Enron acted unethically whenever it wasn't completely obvious that said act was not illegal. In other words, where other companies would avoid something because that act was a "gray area" legally, Enron would do it just because it was a gray area.
I guess it's too late to make this a short posting, so I'll just stop here with this conclusion of mine: Skilling and Lay are either incompetent or lying. They contend that CFO Andrew Fastow pulled all the financial shenanigans right under their nose without their consent. If that's true, they are guilty of incompetence (gross negligence, really) and guilty as charged. If they were complicit in the shenanigans, they are guilty as charged. I don't know why they're even fighting it. Those two guys should be forced to hunt down each investor and do a My Name is Earl good deed to make up for this mess. Whoa! What a great idea for a reality TV show. Watch Skilling and Lay make it up to each former Enron investor. And if the ratings suck, we can still throw them in jail.
Tuesday, April 18, 2006
Laughter Pills
Things occur to me when I write (or when I clear brush). Or sometimes while I'm talking I come up with stuff. Gems, really.
Tonight's Gem: People don't laugh out loud enough. My son Jackson has been tense recently - what with the pneumonia, the persistent cough, the bleepin' plantar's wart that WILL NOT GO AWAY, and this god-forsaken No-Child-Tested-Enough testing that's going on in his school right now. Anyway, to cheer him up tonight I put in one of our favorite episodes of The Simpsons - Cape Feare - also known as the 3rd Sideshow Bob episode. It is the one surefire way to make Jackson laugh out loud, no matter what the mood or state of health.
It's like a laughter pill for him. I think we adults need our own laughter pills. What's your laughter pill?
Tonight's Gem: People don't laugh out loud enough. My son Jackson has been tense recently - what with the pneumonia, the persistent cough, the bleepin' plantar's wart that WILL NOT GO AWAY, and this god-forsaken No-Child-Tested-Enough testing that's going on in his school right now. Anyway, to cheer him up tonight I put in one of our favorite episodes of The Simpsons - Cape Feare - also known as the 3rd Sideshow Bob episode. It is the one surefire way to make Jackson laugh out loud, no matter what the mood or state of health.
It's like a laughter pill for him. I think we adults need our own laughter pills. What's your laughter pill?
Naming the Bowling Team
Katie and I joined a summer bowling league with a friend of ours. Our first match? game? competition? was last night. It was good fun (except that, unknown to us when we signed up, the bowling alley allows smoking after 9pm) and I didn't manage to injure myself. I'm not really sure how we compete, exactly. I think the first night you just bowl to set an average or something. I'll pass on more as I learn the details.
Being the creative one in the group, I was charged (weeks ago when we initially signed up) with naming the team. My first instinct was Master Bowlers (in college my intramural baseball team was called the Master Batters), which my 2 female teammates nixed immediately. I didn't really give it much thought. Then, while clearing brush (a clear reference to the Profound Idea Night posting) it just came to me.
We are the Pit of De-spare.
Pretty good, eh? What can I say? It's a gift.
Being the creative one in the group, I was charged (weeks ago when we initially signed up) with naming the team. My first instinct was Master Bowlers (in college my intramural baseball team was called the Master Batters), which my 2 female teammates nixed immediately. I didn't really give it much thought. Then, while clearing brush (a clear reference to the Profound Idea Night posting) it just came to me.
We are the Pit of De-spare.
Pretty good, eh? What can I say? It's a gift.
Thursday, April 13, 2006
Profound Idea Night
I own 3/4 of an acre. My house sits on much of it. Trees cover virtually the rest. The previous owner pretty much let the non-house part of the property go wild. Oh sure, they blew the leaves off the most of the grass, but they never cut down a single "volunteer" elm tree, for example.
So I spend lots of time clearing brush - the one thing that I have in common with George "Dubya" Bush. (The similarities end there, trust me.) And I do so listening to the soundtrack of my life in my iPod. The music I chose today was familiar but forgettable, so much so that my thoughts began to wander. I had these profound thoughts during these episodes of mind-wandering:
(Note: Similar to ideas you have while tripping on psychodelic mushrooms, I'm sure these thoughts won't seem nearly as profound once the music is off. Not that I am admitting or endorsing or condoning for that matter the ingestion of psychodelic mushrooms. I've never done that. I only know about it from ... a friend.)
Profound idea #1: Hope is just prayer without a deity. I do lots of hoping, but no praying, being an atheist/agnostic. (Perhaps someone can clear this up for me - if I am pretty darn sure there is no god does that make me an atheist or agnostic? What I'm positive about is that no one can prove to me that there is a god -which I believe is virtually the definition of agnostic - and I'm also positive that I cannot prove ther isn't a god.
Profound idea #2: George Bush isn't evil - just incompetent. Dick Cheney is evil. I accept that I will never know the facts, so I must form my opinions based on data I gather from various news sources and my own intuition. And I believe that Dubya approved the "outing" of a covert CIA operative via leak to the press because "Uncle Dick" convinced him to. I have no proof - it's just a hunch.
Profound idea #3: It would be really cool to have a bunch of family over for a bonfire in the firepit in my back yard. I even have a fire permit!
Profound idea #4: Water flows downhill unless pumped. And this damn tree root is going to create a puddle when it rains because of that fact. Damn! I hate puddles.
Of all that, I guess I need to do something about #3. Later...
So I spend lots of time clearing brush - the one thing that I have in common with George "Dubya" Bush. (The similarities end there, trust me.) And I do so listening to the soundtrack of my life in my iPod. The music I chose today was familiar but forgettable, so much so that my thoughts began to wander. I had these profound thoughts during these episodes of mind-wandering:
(Note: Similar to ideas you have while tripping on psychodelic mushrooms, I'm sure these thoughts won't seem nearly as profound once the music is off. Not that I am admitting or endorsing or condoning for that matter the ingestion of psychodelic mushrooms. I've never done that. I only know about it from ... a friend.)
Profound idea #1: Hope is just prayer without a deity. I do lots of hoping, but no praying, being an atheist/agnostic. (Perhaps someone can clear this up for me - if I am pretty darn sure there is no god does that make me an atheist or agnostic? What I'm positive about is that no one can prove to me that there is a god -which I believe is virtually the definition of agnostic - and I'm also positive that I cannot prove ther isn't a god.
Profound idea #2: George Bush isn't evil - just incompetent. Dick Cheney is evil. I accept that I will never know the facts, so I must form my opinions based on data I gather from various news sources and my own intuition. And I believe that Dubya approved the "outing" of a covert CIA operative via leak to the press because "Uncle Dick" convinced him to. I have no proof - it's just a hunch.
Profound idea #3: It would be really cool to have a bunch of family over for a bonfire in the firepit in my back yard. I even have a fire permit!
Profound idea #4: Water flows downhill unless pumped. And this damn tree root is going to create a puddle when it rains because of that fact. Damn! I hate puddles.
Of all that, I guess I need to do something about #3. Later...
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
Jackson's Fever
My son Jackson has been running a fever since my brother Jim died 2 weeks ago - which is an awful long time for a kid to be running a fever. Let's see if I can accurately account for my own (and my wife's) level of stress during that time (using the Department of Homeland Security threat level values):
3/28 - my brother passes away (stress level - elevated)
3/29 - we notice at dinner Jackson's cheeks flushed, running 102.4 fever (stress level - guarded)
3/30 - fever continues, but generally low grade (stress level - guarded)
3/31 - fever breaks briefly midday, but returns to 100.4 by bedtime (stress level - elevated)
4/1-4/4 - fever breaks only with aid on Tylenol, also Jackson has developed a dry cough - (stress level - guarded because at this point it's probably not a virus anymore, it's probably a sinus infection or strep)
4/4 - 1st trip to family doctor. Jackson hates visiting the doctor (to put it mildly) - he really hates having his throat swabbed and having blood taken. The doctor orders a throat swab and a chest x-ray. Both, according to our family doctor, who we've been seeing since 1990, are negative. Must just be a virus. Come back, he says, if the fever hasn't broken in 3 days. (stress level - elevated/guarded - an experienced healthcare professional, one we trust, has told us it's a virus. However, Jackson's dislike of office visits had made the day a stressful one.)
4/4-4/7 - fever persists, as does what sounds to me like a 'productive' cough (productive cough in that it is no longer a dry, wheezy cough, but instead what sounds like mucus inducing cough). (stress level - elevated - it must be something other than a virus now, right? A kid can't have a fever for 10 days without some type of infection...right?)
4/7 - Jackson returns to the doctor, this time with both parents in tow. My presence alone raises the stress level. Both the doctor and Jackson realize this is much more serious than before if only because I took time off from work to attend. The doctor orders a sinus x-ray, a urine test, and the drawing of blood. Jackson really hates the drawing of blood, even if it's only from his thumb one drop at a time. The doctor has a physicians assistant student along. Together they analyze the tests, and conclude that even though the x-ray doesn't show anything conclusive, the presence of an elevated white blood cell count must show a hidden sinus infection. Treatment: amoxicyllin. (stress level - low. Yay! We've finally found something that sounds like a treatable malady - and a valid explanation for the fever.
4/8-4/10 - Fever persists even though the antibiotic is well into his system. (stess level - elevated)
4/11 AM - Fever has broken in the morning, but for how long no one knows. Even Jackson expects it to return. My wife and I worry that this is something much more serious than a sinus infection. After all, the x-ray was inconclusive at best. The only fact we have is an elevated white blood cell count. Which scares us, because the only thing we can think of is ... leukemia. (It's in my nature to jump to the worst conclusion possible.) (stress level - severe)
4/11 PM - Family doctor of 16+ years calls our home. Is that ever good news? Apparently it is standard practice to send all x-rays to a radiologist for further interrogation. The radiologist (meaning: the one who actually knows how to read x-rays) has detected a small occlusion in one of Jackson's lungs. Diagnosis: pneumonia. Time to start him on a new antibiotic. (stress level - guarded)
4/12 - Jackson has been fever-free since yesterday morning. Cough hasn't diminished much, but Jackson's demeanor is much improved. So far so good. I will keep watch until his cough is gone, which could take who knows how long? (stress level - guarded)
3/28 - my brother passes away (stress level - elevated)
3/29 - we notice at dinner Jackson's cheeks flushed, running 102.4 fever (stress level - guarded)
3/30 - fever continues, but generally low grade (stress level - guarded)
3/31 - fever breaks briefly midday, but returns to 100.4 by bedtime (stress level - elevated)
4/1-4/4 - fever breaks only with aid on Tylenol, also Jackson has developed a dry cough - (stress level - guarded because at this point it's probably not a virus anymore, it's probably a sinus infection or strep)
4/4 - 1st trip to family doctor. Jackson hates visiting the doctor (to put it mildly) - he really hates having his throat swabbed and having blood taken. The doctor orders a throat swab and a chest x-ray. Both, according to our family doctor, who we've been seeing since 1990, are negative. Must just be a virus. Come back, he says, if the fever hasn't broken in 3 days. (stress level - elevated/guarded - an experienced healthcare professional, one we trust, has told us it's a virus. However, Jackson's dislike of office visits had made the day a stressful one.)
4/4-4/7 - fever persists, as does what sounds to me like a 'productive' cough (productive cough in that it is no longer a dry, wheezy cough, but instead what sounds like mucus inducing cough). (stress level - elevated - it must be something other than a virus now, right? A kid can't have a fever for 10 days without some type of infection...right?)
4/7 - Jackson returns to the doctor, this time with both parents in tow. My presence alone raises the stress level. Both the doctor and Jackson realize this is much more serious than before if only because I took time off from work to attend. The doctor orders a sinus x-ray, a urine test, and the drawing of blood. Jackson really hates the drawing of blood, even if it's only from his thumb one drop at a time. The doctor has a physicians assistant student along. Together they analyze the tests, and conclude that even though the x-ray doesn't show anything conclusive, the presence of an elevated white blood cell count must show a hidden sinus infection. Treatment: amoxicyllin. (stress level - low. Yay! We've finally found something that sounds like a treatable malady - and a valid explanation for the fever.
4/8-4/10 - Fever persists even though the antibiotic is well into his system. (stess level - elevated)
4/11 AM - Fever has broken in the morning, but for how long no one knows. Even Jackson expects it to return. My wife and I worry that this is something much more serious than a sinus infection. After all, the x-ray was inconclusive at best. The only fact we have is an elevated white blood cell count. Which scares us, because the only thing we can think of is ... leukemia. (It's in my nature to jump to the worst conclusion possible.) (stress level - severe)
4/11 PM - Family doctor of 16+ years calls our home. Is that ever good news? Apparently it is standard practice to send all x-rays to a radiologist for further interrogation. The radiologist (meaning: the one who actually knows how to read x-rays) has detected a small occlusion in one of Jackson's lungs. Diagnosis: pneumonia. Time to start him on a new antibiotic. (stress level - guarded)
4/12 - Jackson has been fever-free since yesterday morning. Cough hasn't diminished much, but Jackson's demeanor is much improved. So far so good. I will keep watch until his cough is gone, which could take who knows how long? (stress level - guarded)
Thursday, April 06, 2006
Book Lists - a Mandatory Blog Posting
This seems to be an obligatory topic in any blog, so here goes - these are the last 5 books I've read, blah, blah blah.
1. In Cold Blood - by Truman Capote. Frankly, I saw the movie and had to read the book. I'm a student of the creative process, and the movie is about how Capote insinuated himself into a small Kansas town and into the story. The book is the product of the movie and taken together with the movie is a fascinating study of Holcombe, Kansas and Capote himself.
2. The Commitment - by Dan Savage. Savage is the author of Savage Love, as graphic and honest a sex column as there is. It is published nationally in "alternative" newspapers like The Onion. He is gay but that is not the limit of his sexual expertise. Anyway, this book is about the process he and his partner (and their son) went through in deciding whether they should "marry". I have to put "marry" in quotes because same sex partners aren't allowed to "marry" in their state of residence. Long story short (too late for that now, eh?) this book will make you think not only about same-sex partnerships/marriage, but also opposite sex partnerships/marriage. A great book. I highly recommend it.
3. Freakonomics - by Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner. And I thought a degree in Economics would be worthless. Boy was I wrong. It does help that Levitt (the economist) is one of the 10 smartest people in the U.S. (my opinion), and that Dubner (the New Yorker writer) is a brilliant storyteller. In this book you'll learn how a group of Chicago teachers cheated on No Child Left Behind tests, why swimming pools are more dangerous than guns, the history of the KKK, and how come, if drug dealers make all that money, why they still live in their mothers' basements. I guarantee you won't want to put it down. It is the only book I've ever read that I didn't want to end.
4. Lamb (the Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal) - by Christopher Moore. How can you not love a fictional account, told from the point of view of Christ's childhood buddy, of Christ's "missing" years from age 13 to 32? I laughed out loud, which is saying a lot because I'm not a big laugh-out-loud person. This is fun fiction that won't fill you up.
5. The Tipping Point - by Malcolm Gladwell. I heard a podcast of Gladwell speaking at a geek's convention and thought he had some interesting points. There is much in this book that is interesting, but I didn't find it nearly as compelling a read as Freakonomics. Good, but not great.
What might be more interesting, I suppose, is the books I'm about to read, or am currently reading. My list includes:
1. Wish List - by Eoin Colfer. Too early to judge - I'm about 12 pages into it (and yet I'm still not hooked). Technically it's children's literature. Katie recommended it - she reads voraciously but rarely recommends books for me, and when she does it's always worth my time.
2. The World is Flat - by Thomas Friedman. Received it as a present, not sure what it's about, but it's #2 on the NY Times Nonfiction best seller list, so there must be something good in there.
3. A Dirty Job - by Christopher Moore. What can I say? I like the author.
The last list is my all time favorite book list. These are books that are my all time favorites and reading them, I believe, provides a little insight into me. They are not necessarily in any particular order - the first one isn't better than the next one, it's just the one I thought of first.
* The Catcher in the Rye - by J.D. Salinger. I am Holden Caulfield (or at least I was when I was 17), and that's all I have to say on that subject.
* A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius - by Dave Eggers. I laughed out loud and cried, and that was before I finished the first chapter. Stylistically challenging, difficult to read at times (he warns you in the preface) not because of how it's written but because of what's written. I read everything Dave Eggers writes. If he scribbled a sentence on a sheet of toilet paper then wiped and flushed, I'd try to catch it before it spiraled into oblivion. That's how much I recommend this author and in particular this book.
* The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time - by Mark Haddon. The story of a 15 year old autistic boy's investigation of the murder of the neighbor's dog. Written in first person from the boy's perspective. Having 2 boys "on the spectrum" it helped me better understand them. I wanted to cry a lot when I read this. Our lives are so easy, we have nothing to complain about. If you know someone who's "on the spectrum" (and you probably do) you should read this book.
* The Princess Bride - by William Goldman. Yes, the book the movie is based on. As wonderful as that movie is, the book is better.
* Road Swing - by Steve Rushin. Columnist for Sports Illustrated drives around the country in search of interesting sports stories. Another laugh out loud book. He is almost exactly the same age as me, and I live vicariously through him. I still religiously read his column weekly in SI.
* Isaac's Storm and The Devil in the White City by Erik Larson. There is nothing more interesting that American history, and these two stories are fascinating because they are true.
There you have it. Me, and the books I love.
1. In Cold Blood - by Truman Capote. Frankly, I saw the movie and had to read the book. I'm a student of the creative process, and the movie is about how Capote insinuated himself into a small Kansas town and into the story. The book is the product of the movie and taken together with the movie is a fascinating study of Holcombe, Kansas and Capote himself.
2. The Commitment - by Dan Savage. Savage is the author of Savage Love, as graphic and honest a sex column as there is. It is published nationally in "alternative" newspapers like The Onion. He is gay but that is not the limit of his sexual expertise. Anyway, this book is about the process he and his partner (and their son) went through in deciding whether they should "marry". I have to put "marry" in quotes because same sex partners aren't allowed to "marry" in their state of residence. Long story short (too late for that now, eh?) this book will make you think not only about same-sex partnerships/marriage, but also opposite sex partnerships/marriage. A great book. I highly recommend it.
3. Freakonomics - by Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner. And I thought a degree in Economics would be worthless. Boy was I wrong. It does help that Levitt (the economist) is one of the 10 smartest people in the U.S. (my opinion), and that Dubner (the New Yorker writer) is a brilliant storyteller. In this book you'll learn how a group of Chicago teachers cheated on No Child Left Behind tests, why swimming pools are more dangerous than guns, the history of the KKK, and how come, if drug dealers make all that money, why they still live in their mothers' basements. I guarantee you won't want to put it down. It is the only book I've ever read that I didn't want to end.
4. Lamb (the Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal) - by Christopher Moore. How can you not love a fictional account, told from the point of view of Christ's childhood buddy, of Christ's "missing" years from age 13 to 32? I laughed out loud, which is saying a lot because I'm not a big laugh-out-loud person. This is fun fiction that won't fill you up.
5. The Tipping Point - by Malcolm Gladwell. I heard a podcast of Gladwell speaking at a geek's convention and thought he had some interesting points. There is much in this book that is interesting, but I didn't find it nearly as compelling a read as Freakonomics. Good, but not great.
What might be more interesting, I suppose, is the books I'm about to read, or am currently reading. My list includes:
1. Wish List - by Eoin Colfer. Too early to judge - I'm about 12 pages into it (and yet I'm still not hooked). Technically it's children's literature. Katie recommended it - she reads voraciously but rarely recommends books for me, and when she does it's always worth my time.
2. The World is Flat - by Thomas Friedman. Received it as a present, not sure what it's about, but it's #2 on the NY Times Nonfiction best seller list, so there must be something good in there.
3. A Dirty Job - by Christopher Moore. What can I say? I like the author.
The last list is my all time favorite book list. These are books that are my all time favorites and reading them, I believe, provides a little insight into me. They are not necessarily in any particular order - the first one isn't better than the next one, it's just the one I thought of first.
* The Catcher in the Rye - by J.D. Salinger. I am Holden Caulfield (or at least I was when I was 17), and that's all I have to say on that subject.
* A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius - by Dave Eggers. I laughed out loud and cried, and that was before I finished the first chapter. Stylistically challenging, difficult to read at times (he warns you in the preface) not because of how it's written but because of what's written. I read everything Dave Eggers writes. If he scribbled a sentence on a sheet of toilet paper then wiped and flushed, I'd try to catch it before it spiraled into oblivion. That's how much I recommend this author and in particular this book.
* The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time - by Mark Haddon. The story of a 15 year old autistic boy's investigation of the murder of the neighbor's dog. Written in first person from the boy's perspective. Having 2 boys "on the spectrum" it helped me better understand them. I wanted to cry a lot when I read this. Our lives are so easy, we have nothing to complain about. If you know someone who's "on the spectrum" (and you probably do) you should read this book.
* The Princess Bride - by William Goldman. Yes, the book the movie is based on. As wonderful as that movie is, the book is better.
* Road Swing - by Steve Rushin. Columnist for Sports Illustrated drives around the country in search of interesting sports stories. Another laugh out loud book. He is almost exactly the same age as me, and I live vicariously through him. I still religiously read his column weekly in SI.
* Isaac's Storm and The Devil in the White City by Erik Larson. There is nothing more interesting that American history, and these two stories are fascinating because they are true.
There you have it. Me, and the books I love.
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